b"14 OCTOBER 07, 2022 The Great Eastern Mailadvice - ask EmmaHealthy relationshipsEmma Woodcock is a Registered Counsellor working with adolescents and adults with a broad range of difficulties, including anxiety, depression, PTSD, stress, self-esteem difficulties, amongst many others. With experience in several evidence-based therapy modalities, Emma utilises skills from CBT, ACT, DBT, motivational interviewing, polyvagal therapy and more. Emma offers a practical approach to therapy, helping clients develop a personal 'toolkit of strategies and skills, so that they feel empowered to deal with lifes challenges everyday.A: Firstly, thank you foridea of safety because webetween at different times inWhich brings me toRemember, a healthy writing in. This is a beautifulhave a fear of rejection.our lives. If you think this isthe third topic that I wantrelationship begins with question and somethingIts safer to be passed oversomething that feels relevantto briefly touch on forourselves and moves many of us have felt at onethan open and vulnerableto discussing in more depth,relationships. That is listening.outwards from there. Healthy time or another, so pleasein a relationship. This ideaplease consider speakingWhen we feel truly known,relationships are truly a dance know you are not alone inof safety also incorporateswith a counsellor who canby being heard and seen, weof connection and autonomy.feeling this way. My wordswork on the nervous system,help you unpack this in morefeel much more comfortable to you are going to soundwhich is why the work ofdetail. being truly intimate. 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Sometimes thisdefinition of who we are, butprepare to listen to theirbecause our names are theEmail Emma:want to be intimate with? comes from a maladaptivesomething we can all moveneeds as well. same! advice.gem@gmail.comReducingblackspot areasU NDER a Liberal and Nationals Government, Victorians in areas with poor mobile coverage would be eligible for a rebate to install mobile boosters in vehicles, homes and businesses.Gippsland East Nationals MP, Tim Bull said the subsidy is part of a $150 million Connecting Country Communities program which will see better mobile coverage and broadband services for regional and rural areas.The answer is not simply more mobile towers. While they assist and are a key part of the network,Looking after your feetwe also need options for those who are in isolated areas, and there are plenty of those in East Gippsland, said Mr Bull.F OOTHealthWeekisournationallyrecognisedhealthawareness We saw Victorian communities left withoutcampaign run annually in October promoting good foot health and the mobile coverage in the Black Summer bushfiresimportantrolepodiatristsplayinkeepingAustralianspain-freeand and recently, the storms in June and October lastmoving.year. This program will work to make the statesOur 2022 Foot Health Week campaign will run from 10-16 October with the mobile coverage more resilient. theme, Podiatrists are Foot Health Experts. They assess, treat and keep you on On top of the rebates for mobile boosters,your feet. This highlights the huge difference podiatric intervention makes and there will be an effort to strengthen mobilecelebrates the work podiatrists do.towers, allowing people to stay in touch during emergencies. Boosting mobile connectivity across VictoriaRegional Victorians have been short-changed through Labors Connecting Victoria program, which has a strong focus on improving coverageT HEAndrewsLaborandbusinesseswillbenefitfromand make 137 towers more resilientbedeliveredinregionalandrural in the metropolitan area, when there are regionalGovernmentisimprovingtownsandsuburbsincludeduring natural disasters, all by 2026. locations.areas without any reception at all. mobileconnectivityforMaryborough, Mount Buller, ClydeMobileconnectivityplaysaThisinvestmentispartofthe Daniel Andrews is spending millions gold- VictorianslivingandworkinginNorth,Craigieburn,Bairnsdale,critical role in the lives of Victorians,$550millionConnectingVictoria plating the city mobile coverage to shore up votesmore than 1,200 suburbs and towns. Toongabbie,Bright,Teesdale,providingaccesstohealthcare,program to fast-track better mobileall at the expense of people who live in smallerInpartnershipwithfivetelcoArnold and Drysdale. education,flexibleworkingandand broadband in as many places as towns who have no coverage at all. providerstheLaborGovernmentSome of these areas will also seeemergencyinformationandpossible.The $150m program will address several issueswill invest more than $250 million tonetworksupgradedto5Gsoonerservices. Connecting Victoria has already plaguing country communities including mobiledeliver1,108mobileinfrastructurethan planned. Atmanysites,thetele- announced $27.5 million in grants blackspots, slow and unreliable broadbandprojects, with residents, businessesTogether with Axicom, ENE.HUB,communicationsprovidershavefor mobile projects with Optus and services as well as disaster-proofing mobile towers. andvisitorstobenefitfrombetterOptus,TelstraandTPGTelecom,agreed to share infrastructure, whichTPG to deliver new mobile towers Regional Victorians are tired of services thatmobilecoverageacross23,500the Government will build 309 newwill give more Victorians a choice ofor upgrades from 4G to 5G in high-drop out and mobile blackspots in their dailysquare kilometresthe equivalentmobile towers, upgrade 492 towersmobile provider, helping make datagrowthareas,and$73millionto commute, which are at best an inconvenience andof more than 1,100 MCGs. to 5G, adapt 170 towers so they cancosts affordable. provide broadband upgrades to 54 at worst, a matter of life or death, Mr Bull said. Morethan2.4millionhomesbe used by multiple telco providersMore than 700 of the projects willlocations across the state."